Julia K Cole

I’m on week three of doing the 70x7 exercise -- and MAN!  Does my hand hurt!  For those unfamiliar with this little process -- it is taken from the Christian Bible. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  ~Matthew 18:21-22  (NIV) I never gave this passage  much thought until I was doing research.   My search lead me to Cat Saunders’ blog page “Four Principles of Effective Apology” -- where I found her article entitled “My Favorite Forgiveness Process.” In her article, Cat  describes how she combined ideas from two of  her mentors in regard to forgiveness, Sondra  Ray and Morrnah Simeona. One is the Ho’Oponopono phrases:  I’m Sorry, Please Forgive me, I love you and I thank you. The other is literally writing out 70 times each day for 7 days the f...

The person who hurt you either  Isn’t aware they have hurt you; Doesn’t care they hurt you ; Has forgotten about the incident and moved on; Sleeps very well at night Has no issues with indigestion, headaches, back pain or any other kind of pain Is convinced you are in desperate need of getting a life,  getting laid or both Has steady relationships and a job Has no addictions or disorders Can hold a steady personal relationship/keep a job You on the other hand … Can remember every detail of the incident and every syllable uttered; Have developed various types of ailments, joint pains, suffer from headaches, backaches,  a wide variety of  physical, mental and/or emotional health issues; Are angry, resentful and mistrustful; Either can’t sleep or sleeps way too much Now has an eating disorder Suffering from memory loss --huge chunks of your life is missing Has some sort of addiction (alcohol, drugs, sex, spending, gambling, food) Can’t hold...

Woo-hoo! My first blog of 2011! As I waded through the multitude of posts here on Face Book, I noticed something interesting.  There appeared to be a common theme with respect to resolutions -- very interesting!  To say the least!  The common thread was (and I have paraphrased here)... Instead of wasting all your time and energy on those who are hell-bent on tearing you down, on those who are only interested in what they can get out of you, on those who spread, and continue to to spread,  their vile negativity at every turn --  Focus only on those who care about you and you them.  My "New Year's Eve party" this year  was sitting here in my office, working on my blogs and articles as I listened  to Delilah on the radio.  As the show progressed, Delilah urged her listeners to resolve to  let go of those who bring us down and make every effort to keep us there.  To leave those people who refuse to help make the world a better plac...

Thank you for allowing me to be a part of your journey!  I joyfully look forward to our continued adventures! Namaste Beloveds! In keeping with tradition -- I am sharing with you all my New Year sig tag creations!

2011 is only a few hours away now.  As I sit here writing this note-- my final one for 2010-- my mind is racing.  As in times past, I have said good-bye --and in some instances good riddance-- to many people.     It's to be expected.  All a Part of our  life's journey.   2010 is no exception.  But unlike years past, the people I let go in 2010 -- I don't miss.  Could be I've just grown tired of them running in and out of my life willy nilly.  Could be that I just out grown their foolishness and childishness.  And it could be that I didn't like them to begin with and it finally dawned on me to kick their sorry asses to the curb and leave them there!.  Could be a combination of all the above.  hmmmm... could be! I will give them all kudos for bringing into my life --clarity and perspective.  And I am truly grateful for that.  However, it is interesting to experience this...

This note, has by far, been the hardest to write.  I really wanted to write something more whimsical, more aligned and upbeat.  But spirit has pushed me into pouring out my heart -- and I have come to trust they know it is needed -- more than I do. For me, 2010 was also a time for reunions and re-connections of past relationships.  I reconnected with some old school friends and, with my estranged mother.  The following is excerpts from The ZEN of Duct tape: An Empress is Born! The reconnection with my old school mates was brief -- like ships passing in the night.  It was wonderful to see them again.  And it was nice remembering our childhood adventures together.  This  did help me to remember where I came from, and too, showed me how very far I had  come. The reunion with my mother, however, was and continues to be, a real challenge.  She and I never had a good relationship.  I wasn't the daughter she wanted and she let me k...

Our human experience has been, and continues to be, filled with all sorts of life changing moments.  Good, bad or indifferent--these life changing moments bring us ... Clarity ! Clarity is not always welcomed in our lives.  Especially, and in particularly, when it comes through events that are less than pleasant.    As human experiencers, we have clarity coming to us in  a wide variety of ways.  Some good.  Some bad.  Some downright humiliating.  Some even debilitating! But no matter how it comes to us,  no matter  form it chooses to take, rest assured -- when clarity comes -- you will  find yourself in a whole different state of thought and being.  When clarity comes,  we feel that shift -- a literal and physical sensation -- that pulls our consciousness into a whole new awareness.  It is in that moment, we see things so clearly.  It is in that moment where everything and everybody ...