Communicate, Appreciate and Validate All Those In Your Life

Well folks, it's that time a year again!  And for those new to this little exercise, here's a little FYI:  It all started back when psychic medium John Edward was doing his TV show Crossing Over.  At the end of the show his parting words were take time to Communicate, Appreciate and Validate those in your life.  He said other stuff after that, but I don't remember what it was.  *BIG Smile*    But the phrase Communicate, Appreciate and Validate is the catch phrase from psychic medium John Edward.  So here's a little ™  and a HUGE Thanks to Johnny!  

At any rate, that catch phrase really struck a chord with me.  In fact, it is the inspiration and motivation behind this blog and all those other blogs and posts on various social network I've done over the years.   And too, I always make a new sig tag for the occasion.  Like the one you'll see at the end of this blog.  

Now the reason for me doing this is partly for my own benefit.  But it is a hope of mine that it will inspire others to get off their collective butts and take action and communicate a little appreciation for all those in their lives as well.  And ...Validating not only their existence, but more importantly, their contribution to your current journey through this life.  

Now this doesn't just include all those happy, loving, wonderful people we all know and enjoy.  Sorry to have to be the one to tell you this...but you know  those ass hats that make your life a living hell?  The ones you hope to the deity of your choosing they fall in a dark bottomless pit and never been seen or heard from again.  You know the ones.  Don't even try to pretend you don't.  Well believe it or not...they had a hand in molding you and assisting you along the way.  

And before any of you start whining, pissing and moaning.  I KNOW!  It's not easy showing appreciation for those yutzes.  Trust me.  I KNOW!  You see, like you, I have some real pieces of work that have come and gone in my life.  In fact, I still have a few stranglers.  But you know what?  Because of them (and truth be told in spite of them) I am the person that stands/sits before you now. 

And I'll be honest with you...I have been quite the Goddess of all Bitches from time to time myself.  I'm pretty sure there are a few people out there still struggling with the issues I laid at their feet.  Not proud of the crap I slug.  Just putting it out there for the world to see that I too have been a real piece of work.    

This exercise is for those who are ready to take that step forward to self empowerment.  When you can think of those that hurt you and say THANK YOU, then you have acknowledged the wonderful contributions those assholes have made in your life.  

Now I'm not saying you go to them in person and say it.  Unless you want to and can.  Some of those jerks can't accept sincere appreciation.    Which is why I always use the old write'em a letter and then burn it technique.  The energies will find their way to those people (eventually).    But the best part is, YOU will feel better for it right then and there.  Don't believe me?  Well try it out for yourself! What do you have to lose?  Am I right???!  

Okay.   Now that I got all that there said and done...here is my personal Communicate, Appreciate and Validate!

To All those who have stood by me through the best of times and most importantly, through the worst of times.  I appreciate you!  I appreciate your contributions in my life.  I appreciate you just being YOU!  I stand before Heaven and Earth and All those here on the internet and Validate your existence, your strengths, your friendship, kinship and Love.   

To All those who have brought me pain and tears.  THANK YOU!  Because of your efforts I am stronger and better.  Your greatest lessons have been showing me what NOT to do and how NOT to be!  These are your gifts and I shall forever cherish them.  Having you in my life has made me a better person.   And I am truly and eternally grateful for you.  I validate your contributions.  

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By communicating, appreciating and validating those in your life, you will never have to live with any regrets.  Do it today, each and every day...never pass up a moment to express your gratitude to those in your life. 

Giving Thanks~It's Not Just For Turkeys! "OR" I'm Thankful To Be ME and Not Somebody Else cause then I wouldn't be ME and THAT would REALLY SUCK!!!!

Today, I will share with you a few of the things I am thankful for.  These things come from my Things I am Thankful For list.  Which I do daily.   Why?  Because every day is a day of giving thanks.  Yea, laugh and mock if you will. I know how corny it sounds.  But it's my personal belief, my way of life and how I roll.   That's my story and I'm sticking to it.

So why make a list?   Helps me from leaving anything out for starters.  More importantly, it puts things in perspective.   Having a literal list allows me to actually see how much there is to be thankful for.    Speaking of which, there is so much we all take for granted.  So much we don't even think about because we're so use to having it around.  You know like running water, indoor plumbing, electricity; having a stove and refrigerator, microwave, coffee maker.  A bed, a pillow, sheets and blankets.  To name a few.      And yes!  These are on my ever growing list.

Being thankful for these very things brings you into a state of knowing.  It generates  this really fabulously wonderful feeling that can only be described as blissful.   According to EFT Master and Teacher Carol Look, genuine thankfulness can change lives!  And it increases our ability to manifest what we want.  Which isn't really the point, but it is a pretty phenomenal perk!   

This feeling of gratitude is something you just have to experience for yourself in order to truly understand.    Try it! And who knows?  You might actually enjoy it! And get in the habit of doing the daily thankful list too!

Be sure to Click HERE to Check out Carol's newsletters on Giving Thanks and other great subjects!  And for some really fantastic EFT scripts! 


Here are three of things off my list of  Things I am Thankful For.

I am Thankful for the Internet.  Without it I would not have met some incredibly special people.  I wouldn't have been able to make friends with people on the other-side of the world.   Thank you Internet!  Thank you to all those who make the Internet a reality! You know who you are!

I am Thankful I have been able to use my anger to better a situation that I believe and know to be unjust; I am So Very Thankful that I have learned to use that anger to create more uplifting, powerful and long lasting solutions.

I am Thankful for all the truly stupid and ignorant people of the world. You show me where I need to improve myself.  But most importantly Without you I wouldn't be aware of how truly fortunate I am that I'm Not YOU!  So thank you! 

So what are YOU Thankful for?

The Gratitude Gap™

 The Gratitude Gap™ happens when we fail to express appreciation for the goodness in our lives.

The Gratitude Gap™  occurs when we show lack to no appreciation for the challenges, problems and pain that comes into our lives.

The Gratitude Gap™ takes place whenever we show a lack of appreciation.

* Lack of appreciation for things ... great or small;
* Lack of appreciation of the painful things;
* Lack of appreciation for anything and/or anyone we may dislike or causes us pain.


The Gratitude Gap™ isn't about liking or loving everything and everyone. It's about showing appreciation for the gifts EVERYONE and EVERYTHING brings into our lives. Situations, words and deeds that enrich us in ways we never believed possible. No matter how painless or how painful they may be.

Bottom line... The Gratitude Gap™ is about being thankful for every single opportunity to learn and to grow past our own short-comings.

Gratitude strengthens our emotional, mental and spiritual muscle. Whereas, The Gratitude Gap™ creates a weaken state within our selves on every level of being. When we have a Gratitude Gap, we are left vulnerable to the challenges that come our way.

By showing gratitude for any challenges, you build stronger 'muscles' that can help you get through the toughest situations.

No, it isn't easy being thankful for pain. No one said it would be. But the more you do it, during the times it is happening to you ... you will soon discover how smoother it is to get past those little annoyances that come your way.

You Don't Miss The Water 'Til The Well Runs Dry"

How quick we are to accept the good that comes our way. How quick we are to call it our blessing when everything is going smoothly.

How quickly we forget the priceless gift our painful experiences are.
 
Be honest with yourself. Where would you be without your painful experiences? What kind of person would you be in this moment ... without them?

Many believe they would have had a better and happier life if only ... if only there hadn't been so much pain -- so many hardships -- so many "road-blocks" in their lives.

What the majority fail to understand is this: Our hardships and pain help mold us and nourish us just as much as the goodness and the joy does.

As a race, human experiencers are wired to come into a true appreciation only when something and/or someone is no longer available or 'something' has been withheld. Sad, but true.

We have left many clues for ourselves to remind us of this. Clues that can be found through our 'sayings' ... such as 'the forbidden fruit' is more desirable, 'you don't miss the water 'til the well runs dry', 'the grass is always greener on the other side.' These are only a few ... can you name others?

In truth, there are people and situations that drive us absolutely insane! There are people in our lives we would love to see just disappear entirely. I have a list of those types of people myself! But if you were to step back and really see past the irritations, aggravations, annoyances and hardships ... I would be willing to bet that you would see how much you have learned from it all. How much you have grown as a person.

Take a few moments and see for yourself the valuable lessons these annoying situations and irritating people have brought into your life. Express your gratitude for the opportunities it gave you to grow up emotionally, mentally and most importantly... spiritually.

Communicate, Appreciate and Validate

Take a moment, each and every day, to Communicate your Appreciation for all those who have help you grow! No matter how insignificant you think/believe it is, no matter how painful it may be, Validate those (including situations) who have come into your life, who took the time and energy in giving you that much needed growth spurt!

Notice the difference in your own energy when you do this. See how much lighter you become. How much stronger you feel.

Take stock in how far you have come because of --and in spite of-- those people and situations.

In doing so ... you will close The Gratitude Gap™.

A Simple "Thank You" goes a LONG way! 

 But don't take my word for it! 

 Try it Your Self!