When it comes to genuinely forgiving -- I fall short.
Way short!
I know this only because … I can rattle off the names of a half dozen people who have gone out of their way to slander me, hurt me and my family in some way. And not only that, every once in a while -- I actually take a few minutes to envision these assholes being trampled by a flock of 100 foot mutant chickens. It puts a smile on my face! Makes me giggle!
Seriously -- who wouldn’t laugh at the thought of someone running from a gigantic chicken?
Don’t get me wrong -- I don’t spend too much time on these fantasies. Those morons aren’t worth the time and energy. But still … whenever I need a good laugh … I just flip on that imagination switch and let those mutant chickens run rampant!
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Entertaining thoughts such as these is what EFT Practitioner
Margaret Lynch refers to as
“Negative Pleasures.” According to Margaret,
negative pleasures are one of the many ways we do battle with ourselves. Granted, while these
negative pleasures do have their humorous side, they tend to keep us stuck And being stuck keeps us in “battle mode.” Being in battle mode prevents us from living in freedom.
As human experiencers -- living in freedom is our ultimate goal.
But how do you get past being stuck in battle mode when the planet is over run by the L.E.A. --League of Extraordinary Assholes?
Well it ain’t easy! Then again … no one said it would be. However, we have at our disposal a wide range of tools, methods and modalities for dealing with the hardcore members of the LEA. One of which is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) a.k.a. tapping.
EFT is astoundingly helpful in releasing whatever unwanted and unneeded energies floating in and around our bodies. However, when combined with other healing modalities, such as Ho’Oponopono, I have discovered that my tapping has an even more profound impact.
But don't just take my word for it -- try it out for yourself!
You can check out some of the free EFT sessions on You Tube with a host of expert EFT Techs such as
Margaret Lynch, Brad Yates, and Pamela Bruner.
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Now when doing any type of healing modality, I always start with myself. Reason being, like all of you, I carry around this guilt and shame for being a "secret member" of the L.E.A. And too, I have a boat load of
negative pleasures that I indulge in now and then. While it does make me smile, I do have a bit of shame for visualizing someone’s demise. So the very first person who gets the healing is me!
Why do I start with myself, you may ask? Simple. First of all, on whole, we all tend to overlook our self when it comes to maintaining any level of health. Be it spiritual, physical, emotional and/or mental. We all tend to put ourselves last.
Many years ago, I remember someone stating that we take better care of our vehicles than we do ourselves. Not sure who originally said it -- but whoever it was they were one very observant cookie!
Secondly, and most importantly, forgiveness is really about Self anyways. We are the ones who are holding on to the memories and experiences. We are the ones living and reliving those episodes over and over again. So it's only logical that we begin with Self!
In case of emergency ...
place the oxygen mask over your face FIRST!
Then proceed to assist others!
If you ever traveled by airplane, you are familiar with these instructions given before take off. These same instructions hold true for any healing work!
Heal your Self -- FIRST!
And ... The first steps to healing our Self begins with forgiveness of One's Self!
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While forgiving others may prove difficult -- forgiving ourselves is a seemingly impossible and unreachable goal.
There are endless reasons why we refuse to forgive ourselves. Irregardless of the many reasons you can name -- it all comes down to one solitary belief … unworthiness.
Unworthiness. Worthlessness. Low or non-existent Self-Worth.
Somewhere along the way … we were convinced that we are the most worthless beings on the face on Planet Earth. While the belief of unworthiness could have been triggered anywhere during the course of your life, chances are it all stems from early childhood. But only you can know for certain. To find out, you (yes YOU) will have to take the time to literally dig through the huge piles of emotional bullshit to find the point of origin.
It isn’t easy. No one said it would be! It will take time and patience to sift through all that crap. And a lot of hankies!
And folks … There are no short cuts to this process! Trust me, if there was … I would have found them and used them-- a LONG time ago!
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For me personally, my point of origin was easily detected. The events compounding these beliefs of unworthiness is a
very long list! Trekking back in time, facing the point of origin of my beliefs of unworthiness was heartbreaking. But the more I went back, the more information I gleaned. And the more information I gleaned, the more my awareness expanded. And the more my awareness expanded, the more my heart opened and allowed the forgiveness to flow more freely.
Coming into the present -- I now can see with crystal clarity what my choices as a young child had set in motion. And too, how The Universe, in it’s infinite wisdom, had begun to gently nudge me out of that mindset.
And how did it do this?
By placing in my path the same type of people, situations and experiences with the same exact messages of unworthiness!
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I don’t know if you ever noticed this -- but The Universe has this
two by four to the side of the head method it implements!
Of course, it usually starts out with a ruler. First it begins with a really subtle thump on the noggin. If you get the lesson from that initial tap-- then you’re good to go! On to the next lesson! Woo Hoo!!! But ignore that little thump and the next thing you know … the ruler has been turned into a two by four … and before you have time to blink … BAM! Right up side the head! And you have no choice
but pay attention to the lessons The Universe is providing!
Ever notice that? Okay, maybe it’s just me then! However, my point being … ignoring an issue -- any issue -- leads to more of the same, each time it returns is more intense. And to make matters worse -- ignoring issues tends to mount even more feelings of unworthiness! So before you know it -- you are caught in this vicious cycle of self-abuse. Before too long you wind up in a sea of utter despair.
As you find yourself barely floating along--you manage to muster up enough strength to ask that all burning question …
Why me?!! Instead of throwing you a life preserver, The Universe comes in with that two by four and whacks you again and again! Each blow harder than the last.
And it just keeps coming ...
Until …
You stop struggling! Yell “UNCLE!” And proceed to forgiving yourself!
Yep! The Universe is one helluva motivator -- ain’t it? Unfortunately, many view this process as cruel and unusual punishment. They put all blame on The Universe! Taking no responsibility for themselves. Not really taking the time to understand and fully comprehend the way The Universe operates.
Which is … whatever you are in need of learning … The Universe supplies! In abundance -- I might add!
So if you are getting WHACKED upside the head … it is
YOU who are doing it to
YOU!
End of Story!
Now if you have any desire to place a cease and decease order on all the whacking upside the head … you will need to do one little thing. And that is … genuinely, unconditionally, with love & compassion -- forgive your …
Self!
Yes! It really
is that simple!
The benefits of forgiving Self is infinite! In fact, something truly marvelous happens when you genuinely forgive your Self! All of which we will cover in Part 3 of this on-going blog series.
Until then …
Embrace ALL that you Are!
For you ARE … All That There Is!
Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put
Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience.
In the style comparable to Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way.
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