Domestic Violence isn't just a "woman's issue." It is a HUMAN issue!

Below is a short article written by Jan Brown which was posted as a reply to my article Domestic Violence: Taking it like a Man--the Untold Story  five years ago.  My article can can be found HERE.  

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month and throughout the month domestic violence advocates and the media's attention will be focused on bringing more public understanding to and promoting the eradication of men’s violence against women. However, not all intimate partner violence (IPV) fits into this neat little package. IPV against men, especially against men by their female intimate partners, has always been a hot button issue. The mere mention of male victims in a gathering of traditional domestic violence advocates creates great controversy. 

While domestic violence advocates may know men are victims they insist that their victims service agencies (over 2,000 of them in the US) should focus exclusively on ending violence against women by men because women are the most injured and prevalent victims. 

As a result, serious outreach and services for the male victims of IPV are sorely lacking. Studies indicate that men are victims of assault by their partners in 25% of the reported cases in the U.S. each year. The disparity between the needs of those victims and the services available is large. The gap must be closed and that can only be done through education, services and advocacy. 

While resources for men are still scarce, awareness is increasing and hopefully more services will follow. IPV is not a gender issue, it is simply a human issue. 

The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women envisions a world where services are available to victims and survivors without prejudice. 

Call: 1-888-7HELPLINE (1-888-743-5754)

Visit: www.dahmw.org 

Sincerely, 
Jan Brown
Founder and Co-Director Heather Fortune, 
Co-Director Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women

 Domestic Violence is EVERYBODY's Business!   It's not just a "woman's issue"  it's a HUMAN issue.   Plain and simple  And it is an issue that is reaching epidemic proportions.  Until we stand united and work towards  ending this ... we will continue to suffer the costs.

I urge each of you to share this information on your social networks.  Again...for emphasis...

Domestic Violence isn't just a "woman's issue."  

It is a HUMAN issue!

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The End of October Doesn't Mean An End To Awareness!

Domestic Violence Awareness Month may be coming to a close at the end of October, but we must not forget that every day men, women and children seek safety and justice inside America's courts.

Sadly, from New York to California, victims of domestic violence are facing a rationing of justice. Court furlough days have resulted in backlogs and delayed temporary restraining orders. Crippling budget cuts mean courts must reduce their hours of operation or close altogether.


Turned away at shuttered courthouse doors, victims of domestic violence are left to fend for themselves. 

In Oregon, "Jane" had to wait three days to file a Family Abuse Prevention Act Restraining Order because Friday was a designated court furlough day. In New Jersey, "Joe" sat outside a courtroom door for nearly five hours waiting to be heard while the increasing backlog of cases ultimately suspended civil and family court trials and delayed temporary restraining orders. And in Mississippi, children were left in limbo while safe custody and visitation orders took a back seat to devastating court budget cuts that delayed and postponed the administration of justice.

Lives are in danger, and we must act now. Our courts cannot do their part to protect families unless they are fully funded. Donate to Justice at Stake today by clicking HERE. Our courts must not be closed to the public.

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It's Up To You! (warning: Rant)

While I was preparing an article on Domestic Violence Awareness, I came upon  a photo collage of a young woman whose face was all busted up and bloodied.  The caption of this picture read:  My boyfriend beats me up -- but I love him though!



After seeing this picture, I tossed my original article in lieu of a good old fashioned rant.  

** If you are easily offended ...

NOW is a good time to close out this blog**

For any of you who are currently in a relationship where your significant other is abusing you, on any level, in any manner ... I want you to listen up.  
If you are staying with someone who is verbally and/or physically abusing you -- 

GET THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM! 

 NOW!

Allowing someone to use you for a punching bag is NOT Love!  It is fear!  And fear & Love cannot reside in the same space at the same exact time!

If they are abusing you -- they do NOT love you! 

 If they loved you -- they would never want to hurt you.  

If they are abusing you -- it is NOT your fault!    Your abuser is a sick fuck!  End of story!  No matter how much you love them!  No matter how hard you try to be good -- it will NEVER be good enough for your abuser!  Why?  Because they are sick twisted fucks!

Your abusers are never truly sorry!  While your abuser may say the words "I'm sorry!"  they do not EVER mean it!    They are control freaks with an agenda.  And their agenda is to keep you chained to their sick twisted controlling ways.

Read the following ... very carefully.  

 
 If your significant other ...

• is calling you and/or texting you  for no other reason than to check  up on you ... then  gets angry when you don't reply immediately ...

• gets overly  upset whenever you have family or friends over or when you are talking to them ...

•  gets all bent out of shape if their meals aren't prepared when they want them, nit picks at every tiny thing, bitches constantly about how the house looks, wants to know why you are a few minutes late getting back from the store or anywhere else ...

The above list is just a few examples of the type of control methods to keep you in line and to isolate you from those who care about you and love you. They are just the first steps to further abuse!


 
 

GET AWAY FROM YOUR ABUSER NOW! 

DO NOT DELAY! 

IT MEANS YOUR LIFE! 

IT MEANS THE LIFE OF YOUR CHILDREN

and/or

YOUR PETS

IF YOU HAVE ANY!

 

 It is a proven fact!

An abuser will make every attempt to control you, manipulate you and isolate you.  This is their proven formula.  

And do not EVER believe them when  they say they didn't mean to hit you that one time.  And that they will never do it again. 

If they hit you ONCE -- they WILL do it again and again ... AND AGAIN!

You cannot change these sick fucks!  You can only drop kick their ass to the curb and leave!  You cannot believe one word these sick assholes say -- they are very convincing pathological liars! They wouldn't know the truth if it walked up to them and bit them on the nose!

You are NOT somebody's fucking punching bag!  You are NOT responsible for your abuser's behavior!  You are NOT to blame for their bullshit!   You have NOTHING to be ashamed of!  And you are NOT ALONE! 

End of Story!

If you, or someone you know, care about & love, is in an abusive relationship, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline:  1-800-799-SAFE (7233).  

Or visit them on the web at http://www.thehotline.org/


There are safe places to go.  People who are qualified and experienced to help.  

Again ... You are NOT alone!  And you have NOTHING to be ashamed of!  

Please!  If you are currently in an abusive relationship -- get out NOW!  There are places to go that are safe!  And you will be protected.  You will get the help you need to get away from your abuser.  But YOU have to take that first step!

It's Up to YOU!

Below are some more resources to find help!  Please Share this information!  Do All that you can to help those you know who are being abused to get out of that situation!  


Domestic Violence is EVERYBODY'S BUSINESS!

 
Resources: 

National Domestic Violence Website:  http://www.thehotline.org/

Resources For Men who are victims of Domestic Violence:

You're Not Alone Domestic Abuse Hotline 888-743-5754

http://www.batteredmen.com/

http://dahmw.org/ 



Safe Horizon 


Domestic Violence International Resources:

Vachss


RAINN

 

 

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