Valuable Life Lessons

I would like to share with you the lessons by a 90 year old man:) Feel free to spread this around with your friends and family.

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short not to enjoy it.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Don’t buy stuff you don’t need.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for things that matter.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye… But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.  Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to be happy.  But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose Life.

28. Forgive but don’t forget.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give Time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d
grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have, not what you think you need.

42. The best is yet to come…

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way. 

As a writer, Julia is a virtual powerhouse of creativity.  Among Julia's literary accomplishments is  the  Children of the Luminaries  trilogy;  Book One: The Coming Storm can be purchased by clicking Here.   

Book Two  of the trilogy is due out in the Fall of 2015 and Book Three will be available in 2016.  The long anticipated ZEN of Duct Tape:  An Empress Is Born will be out in 2016.  As well as the Teddy Mitchell Chronicles.

Julia has also contributed to several other publications including Brad Steiger's  Real Zombies, The Living Dead, and Creatures of the Apocalypse  Click HERE for the review; and Marie D. Jones' Destiny vs. Choice  Click HERE    

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Stages of The Awakening Process: Part 3

Your awakening process parallels your physical stages of life and all that goes along with it. 

• Conception
• Gestation
• Birth
• Infant - Toddler
• Young Child - Early Adolescence
• Late Adolescence - Early Adult
• Mid-Late Adulthood

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Birth, Infant and Toddler Stages

There is a longing that nags you off and on.  The restlessness and interrupted sleep only adds to the yearning.  There doesn't seem to be anyone close to you that truly understands what you're going through.  In fact, they've advise you to see a doctor.  No doubt you're going through the change.  Or you just need to get out more.  Or maybe try this new diet or that new diet.   You go to the doctor, they tell you there isn't anything physically wrong with you.  Or they tell you you just need to get more exercise and rest.  You go to a mental health specialist and they can't offer you any assistance that really rings true in your heart.  This is not to say these professionals aren't good at their jobs.*  No.  They're very good.  But they aren't getting it.  They're just not getting what's happening to you.  

Deep down you know it's more than hormones.  It's more than what's going around.  And  Yes, you're going through a change.  But not the kind modern medical science acknowledges.  You're not going crazy. You're not imagining any of it.    Get quiet, listen to your body.  Allow yourself to be guided by that inner knowing.    You're not alone.  Just remember that.  

When you are able to sleep you are bombarded by strange dreams.  Some of which look like a really bad science fiction movie.    It's okay!  You're not being haunted by ghosts or demons.  It's all part of the process.  There is so much you have taken in over the years.  The news reports, the every day experiences that leave you stressed and annoyed.  Your dreams are just a way for your mind to release and act out what it has taken in during your waking state.  Keep a journal.  Even if you can't remember the dream itself, write down the feelings the dream(s) left you with.  Don't forget to put the date down. It'll serve a purpose later on.

This is the birthing stage of your awakening process.   You will find your levels of discomfort shift from the subtle to extreme.  This of course adds to the now ever present irritation.  Remember to use whatever relaxation method that works for you on a daily basis.  The more relaxed you are...the quicker you can get through the various levels of the process.  

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The Infant and Toddler stages of your awakening process gets intense as your awareness grows.   During this particular level of awakening, you will find yourself acting out in ways you never dreamed.  Testing boundaries like an enraged two year old, you becoming demanding one minute and then shirking away the next.  Jealousy and possessiveness rears it's ugly head when you least expect it.  You don't want to share what you have or what you know.   Deep down you know it isn't polite or loving or kind.  But something in you just doesn't care.  It's yours and yours alone.  Let "them" get theirs and leave you be.    Sound familiar?    It's okay really!  We all go through this at one point during our awakening.  It does get better!  You do calm down!  

 Things that never bothered you now irritate you and you don't understand why.  You keep wondering if people were always that stupid and inconsiderate.  Once, not too long ago, it didn't bother you.  You ignored it.  Just let it slide.  But now...now it really annoys you.   You can no longer tolerate the insanity that you are now consciously aware of.   It's okay.  Your awareness is expanding and the adjustment is a bit unsettling in the beginning.  It does get better.

You throw a temper tantrum over things that make no sense to anyone. Not even to you.  You stay on line hoping to find others like you.  Sometimes you luck out and find online groups who are like you.  But that too is short-lived.   So you find yourself spending a lot of alone time.  Use this alone time to get to know YOU.  Keep a journal of your feelings.  Remember to date the entries.  This will help you see how far you have come later on.  

If you feel the need to rant, write your rant out and email it to yourself.  Or start a blog!  My rants are legendary.  Not to mention, comical!  Most importantly, they show me how far I have come.   So again, keep those journals!  You'll be glad you did!

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Keep In Mind ...

This is not a race of any kind!  You will reach maturity in your own divine timing!

Every single person is where they are suppose to be ... when they are suppose to be ... at the exact moment they are suppose to be -- Doing and acting as they are suppose to be!

Whatever stage you find yourself in always remember to be Kind to Your SELF! 

For the short list of "symptoms" of the Awakening Process, and suggestions on how to work through the process,  you can find them by clicking HERE,  HERE,  HERE  and HERE 

*Disclaimer: ALWAYS check with a health care professional FIRST!  

*SPECIAL NOTE: many health care professionals are  now using their own personal awakening experiences to help others going through the stages.  We applaud these brave individuals for boldly moving forward and making the necessary changes in how people are treated.

Excerpts from The ZEN of Duct Tape:  An Empress Is Born™

About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way. 

As a writer, Julia is a virtual powerhouse of creativity.  Among Julia's literary accomplishments is  the  Children of the Luminaries  trilogy;  Book One: The Coming Storm can be purchased by clicking Here.   

Book Two  of the trilogy is due out in the Fall of 2015 and Book Three will be available in 2016.  The long anticipated ZEN of Duct Tape:  An Empress Is Born will be out in 2016.  As well as the Teddy Mitchell Chronicles.

Julia has also contributed to several other publications including Brad Steiger's  Real Zombies, The Living Dead, and Creatures of the Apocalypse  Click HERE for the review; and Marie D. Jones' Destiny vs. Choice  Click HERE    

PLEASE NOTE:  All artwork, unless otherwise specified, are the property of the individual artists themselves. The author of these blogs claims no ownership of the original artwork, but only of the sig tags created using said artwork. Each sig tag shown on these blogs include the appropriate copyright information of the Artists and the unique licensure for use.

Reproduction and copying of said work without proper authority is strictly prohibited


Unless otherwise specified, ALL articles on this Blogger are the property of Julia K. Cole.  The ZEN of Duct Tape™, it's name, teachings, modalities, and all excerpts; the nicknames The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape™,  The Duct Tape Diva™; Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality™, Reality back into Spirituality™ are the property and trade marks of Julia K. Cole and are protected under Copy Right Laws both here in the USA and Around The World.  

"Stop twerking, start working!" A Very Timely message from Louisville Pastor Kevin Cosby

Pastor Kevin Cosby.  You're  not going to  find his influence in any of the local Ferguson protests.  But you will find him here in Louisville, Kentucky inspiring and motivating!

"I'm not marching over hands up -- don't shoot!' because we're the ones doing the shooting," Cosby shouted in one of his sermons "But I will march if you change it from 'Hands up -- don't shoot!' to 'Books open -- don't flunk!'"   [emphasis added]


Click HERE to Read the Story in it's entirety.

Source:  WDRB News Louisville, KY 


 'Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot,Nothing is going to get better. It's not.'  ~ Dr. Seuss

Study Finds Evidence of Life After Death

There have long been stories of near-death or out-of-body experiences but, as researchers at the University of Southampton in the U.K. wryly note, "objective studies on these experiences are limited."

So they decided to investigate whether these claims corresponded with actual events. Their conclusion: It does seem to be possible for some form of awareness to happen for up to a few minutes after death, they report in a study published in the journal Resuscitation.

Beginning in 2008, scientists looked at 2,060 people who went into cardiac arrest (which they describe as "biologically synonymous with death") at 15 different hospitals in the U.S., U.K., and Austria. Of the 330 people who survived, about 40% recalled awareness while they were clinically dead. (The lead doctor tells the Telegraph that number could be higher if some of those people's memories weren't dulled by drugs or sedatives.)

Of those, 46% had memories not commonly associated with NDEs. A sampling:

• "I was told I was going to die and the quickest way was to say the last short word I could remember."

• "All plants, no flowers"

• "Saw lions and tigers"

• "Being dragged through deep water"

Only 9% had experiences "compatible" with NDEs, and 2% had ones compatible with OBEs, where they explicitly "saw" or "heard" moments tied to their resuscitation. There was one "validated" case in which the patient was able to describe events that happened during a three-minute period in which he had no heartbeat.

"This is paradoxical, since the brain typically ceases functioning within 20-30 seconds of the heart stopping and doesn't resume again until the heart has been restarted," says the study's lead researcher. "These experiences warrant further investigation." (Scientists had previously learned that rat brains go into overdrive following cardiac arrest.)

This article originally appeared on Newser: Study Finds Evidence of Some Form of Life After Death

Six Things To Practice During 2014: 1 ~ Make Peace With Your Past~

Have you made peace with your past?

Before you answer that, take a moment and ask yourself the following questions:

Do you feel grounded each and every day?  Are you consciously aware of the present?
Are you genuinely at peace here in this moment?  Are you content with your life?  
Are you content with who you are? 

Do you rarely think of the past?   And when you do, can you honestly look back on past events and situations and have a better understanding of what took place and why?  Can you think about people whom you lost, be it through a physical death or them leaving you to be with someone else, and know it wasn't anything you did/didn't say or do/didn't do?   Can you think about these people without getting upset or going into a fit of rage?  Can look at your past and feel nothing but satisfaction and gratitude?

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If you can answer yes to most of the above questions,  you're well on your way to being 100% at peace with your past!  
    
Sadly, many people can't answer yes to even one of those questions.  Not even one!    And reason being is they spend a great deal of their time dwelling on the past.  They linger in all the memories of times gone by.   Reliving the pain and anguish of the hurtful things said and done to them.   Or reliving all the wonderful memories they shared with a loved who passed on.   

Whether or not the memories are painful or pleasant, if you find you are spending more than half your days dwelling in the past, then you are not living fully in the here and now. 

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So why do we dwell on our past so much?  Why do we  go there to linger in all the memories of what was?  

I've come to the conclusion that we go back  rehashing and reliving our past in the hopes that some way, some how, we can change the past, make it better, right the wrongs, soothe the pain and so on.    Maybe.  But the sad truth is so many  people literally live out their lives, living and re-living it all  in the hopes they can somehow change it and make it better.  Or just make it go away entirely.     Which by the way...never happens!

And then there are those who just refuse to even deal with the past on any level.  They just stuff it all  down deep in their gut or way back in the recesses of their minds.  Living out their lives filled with anger and/or perpetual denial.  Explains all the fucked up relationships don't it?

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So I have to ask, when you look back on your life, what events do you recall having a tremendous impact on how your future was shaped?   What people and/or events still give you a negative emotional tug?

Perhaps it's an ex-lover,  unresolved issues with family or you are dealing with some type of regret for past actions. Whatever it is, it's time to get it cleared out and cleaned up! 

Clearing & Cleaning The Path For A Better Now

Clearing out and Cleaning up your past isn’t about forgetting.  It's about healing.  It's about acceptance.   Through accepting the past for what it is, you come into an understanding that what was doesn’t need to be a part of your present.  Or future!   Once this understanding sets in and takes hold, a wondrous healing takes over.  

To reconcile the past  you will be confronting all those areas that you resist the most.  Keeping in mind of course, Resistance is Futile!

 

Facing the past is the key to releasing it. 

Now to clarify things, I will impress upon you to remember that there is a vast difference between facing the past and just talking about the past.

While both exercises involving going back in time.  Facing the past puts you in a position of power as the observer.  Whereas, talking about the past makes you the participant.

Think about that for a few minutes.   Let it sink in.  

If your happiness isn't the reason to let go of your past, think about your family, your spouse, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, children and friends. How have the events from your past impacted them? How you behave and act is what your kids will grow up emulating. By continuing to hold onto the past, not only are you destroying your own life, you are crushing the lives of all of those around you. If you choose to go down a path that is stuck in how your life used to be, the people around you will go down that path too.

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Here's an exercise to help you zero in on how the past is impacting your life.

• Write down a list of every person you feel you've wronged.

• Write down a list of every person you own an apology to.

• Make a list of everyone you feel has wronged you.

• Write down a list of every person you feel you deserve an apology from.

If you want to be free from you past, let all of the people you named in the above exercise know how you feel. More times than not, you may be surprised that they have no idea what you're talking about. What made an indelible impression on you, turned out to be meaningless or of little concern to that other person. They simply had no clue you've been holding on to all of that negative emotion which ultimately weighed you down with self-created images of something that may or may not have happened.

Think of all the wonderful things you are missing out on this present by exerting all that focus on all the yesterdays.

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As with all addictions, healing your addiction to the past will take time and conscious effort.  


Embrace All that You are!   
For You ARE All  that There Is!


Namaste!

Next Blog:  

What Other People Think About Me Is None Of My Business!


Resources:  

Terry Ferry

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tom-ferry/self-help-are-you-addicte_b_631620.html

Why Choose A Coach?

What do top athletes and you have in common? 

More than you realize!

Like you, athletes have a talent they wish to share with the world -- a dream they desperately want to fulfill.   Like you, they face numerous challenges in order to fulfill  those dreams.  And like you, they fair better when they have the unconditional loving and compassionate support from people in their lives.   

What sets top athletes apart from all others?  Their Coach!  Now that Coach may be just one person or several.  But it is always that person who keeps them on task.  Who lends a listening ear, a shoulder to lean on and a foot up the ass when needed. 

Ask yourself these questions.  Where would any top athlete  be without their coach staying on top of them?  Lending support?  Dragging them out of their comfort zone?  

Now ask yourself this question.  Should living life be any different than a top athlete? 

The answer is No!

The simple fact of life is this.  Individuals are better able to make big decisions when they have unconditional loving support of friends, family, peers, or a coach. 

Why get a coach of any kind? Be they life coach or Empowerment coach or what have you?

Well, only you can answer that question!  But I can tell you that  having a Coach can bring you closer to living the life you were meant to live!  Freely!  Authentically! Passionately!

Now don’t get me wrong!  Family and friends are wonderful support systems!  I’d be totally lost without mine!  But, let’s be honest here.  There are times when you don’t want them to know about your fears, doubts and hang ups.   

While you may trust them -- there may be something you are wanting to do or something you are afraid of.  Something you are anxious of sharing because you are terrified of  being looked down upon.  Maybe you’re afraid of being seen as stupid or less than or being seen as weak. 

Many of us are a little ashamed of being in an imbalanced state.  We secretly beat ourselves up for not being perfect!  Not living up to the expectations of others.  Not reaching those unreachable standards we have set up for ourselves!  And we just don’t want our family and friends to know all that!

Be they real or imagined, those fears can actually prevent you from reaching your goals.  These fears create walls that close in on you until you can’t even remember who you are any more.

Empowerment Coaching  can help you through these fears. 

If you are still asking yourself … Why get a coach of any kind?   Well,  chances are … you already know why, but are still unsure about taking that next step.   That’s okay!  You’re not alone!  I know first hand how scary it is!   

But aren't you a little sick and tired of not being happy?  Aren't you tired of NOT Living and being All you know you are? 

My Empowerment Coaching sessions is all about assisting you to be happier -- Living and Being all You Are!  And how is this done?  First by identifying what those blocks are; and then by shifting  your focus away from, and guiding you through,  the roadblocks that stand  between you and your goals.   

And I do this by utilizing a wide variety of tools, such as (but not limited to) EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Quantum Energy Healing and Chakra Clearings.   

And as an added bonus to our  one on one chats (telephone or online chats)-- you will receive daily emails from me filled with all sorts of great stuff.   

Each day you will receive one or two emails from me that include inspirational messages, Reminders and Checklists of your daily goals; and links to experts in the fields of EFT, Self-Emergence, Quantum Energy Healing and Chakra Clearings.  As well as few other little wonderful items that will help you stay motivated, inspired and connected!

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As an Empowerment Coach --I am your partner -- your support system --with only one goal in mind:  improving the your quality of life so you may live as your Authentic Self.

 

Embrace ALL that you are!  

Because YOU are ALL that there is!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way.


To Book A Consultation With Julia

E-Mail:  JuliaKCole@gmail.com

 

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