Pondering 2013: Part 2

As I sit here writing this, I’m reminded of a scene from What Dreams May Come.   You know the one, where Robin Williams’ character finds his wife who just committed suicide?  

Like that character, I fought my way through "heaven" in order to be with people who made it painfully obvious they wanted nothing to do with me.   Like the wife, they are emotionally damaged, choosing to live their lives as a victim, creating their own special kind of hell in which to dwell.   Then here I come fighting all of heaven to join them.  Yea, imagine that someone would choose hell over heaven just to be with miserable, selfish assholes!   
 

Crazy.  I know!

Hell is a place I no longer wish to be.     So I say a final farewell to all those who rather live in misery and be a victim!  Who would rather wallow in the depths of despair in Hell than enjoy the splendors of Heaven.

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As a side note, I wish to personally address a few members of my birth family. 

You know who you are.  

 

I was under the assumption that you didn’t read my blog.  Assumptions which have proven erroneous.  As most assumptions do.  

But it appears that some have in fact read the words I have expressed herein and made a decision to de-friend me on Face Book.    I hope your pathetic actions bring you some measure of satisfaction and relief.   Knowing how delusional you truly are, I’m sure it did! 

Nonetheless, I do wish to say to you…THANK YOU!  You saved me the time, effort and energy!    

And too, I wish to say THANK YOU for proving me right.  Though I had hoped I was wrong in believing you all were nothing more than a bunch of self absorbed, self serving and self victimizing, clueless ass hats, your very actions have provided all the proof I need to know I wasn’t.  I consider this a victory.  Though bittersweet and sad, it has lifted me up and strengthened my resolve to keep people like yourselves out of life!  But most importantly, it has wiped out any and all remaining doubts I may have had for the decisions made! 

So THANK YOU!  I can now boldly, and with great confidence,  enter 2014 several hundred pounds lighter!

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My decision is now set in the proverbial stone!  

ALL the freeze dried bullshit that happened in 2013 STAYS in 2013!

I begin a new and more improved way of life!  All that will remain of 2013 and all years prior,  will be this blog.  And it remains only to serve as a healthy reminder of where I came from and how far I have traveled.  And too, and perhaps most importantly, as a reminder of what was and is no more!

Forgiveness: Part 1

 "The act of forgiveness is not the condoning of any action that causes pain, it is the refusal to carry the pain inflicted by that action." ~Grandmother to The Oracle, Children of the Luminaries: Book III~The Day of Reckoning

Long ago, when I had asked about forgiveness, the answer I received was simplistic in nature. Though it is nothing new, the message bears repeating.

When we forgive, we are not condoning the action that caused us pain.  On the contrary! When we forgive -- we are in refusing to carry any and all pain inflicted by that action.

A Hard Habit To Break

 As human experiencers, we develop a wide variety of habits. No greater habit have any of us than the holding on to pain.

It doesn't matter how long ago it was inflicted, it doesn't matter how far we have come in our conscious awareness ... our habit of holding on to our pain is ever present.  It is a habit that we hold near & dear to our collective hearts. 

We hold on to our pain as though it were a matter of life or death. Why? While the reasons vary, the root of this issue is fear.

• Fear of not having purpose.
• Fear of facing our true feelings. Fear of taking responsibility.
• Fear of owning up to any mistakes we may have made or imagined we made.
• Fear of being unworthy, of being unloved, unwanted.

Above all these ... 

• Fear of our own individual power. 

 We scare ourselves on a regular basis with stories we have been told and continue to tell ourselves about Our Selves.

We know instinctively we are powerful beings -- but yet we hold on to the pain in lieu of our power. We fear being seen as arrogant if we choose to live in our power.

So we hold on to the pain in order to blend in -- to be just like everybody else! And just like everybody else -- we begin to forget who and what we truly are.   And ... Just like everybody else -- we suffer needlessly and unnecessarily. 

The pain we hold on to allows us to feel. So we hold on to it--with all our being.

As long as we are feeling pain ... we are feeling something. Right? 

The pain allows us to remain in the state of forgetfulness -- all so we don't have to take responsibility for our lives. It's better to let someone else take responsibility for our misery.

After all ... they are the reason we are in so much pain. Right?

We hold on to the pain so we can punish those who caused the suffering. 

If we suffer ... then they surely will suffer more by watching us live in so much misery.  Right?

We vow to live in our misery as a shining reminder of what a horrible person they are or were. Right?

 RIGHT!

Embracing vs. Holding On To

There is a vast difference between embracing and holding on to any and all energies.

When we hold on to something that has caused us pain -- we are forcing ourselves to relive the misery over and over again.  We continuously victimize ourselves by holding on to the pain.

Embracing, on the other hand, allows the energies to fuse within our very being, causing them to vibrate at a higher vibration.  This in turns, allows us to view the action and/or actions as the observer.  Placing the pain in a brighter light where it no longer holds us prisoner.   From this stance, we are no longer the victim, but merely the observer of what was and no longer is.   It puts control back at our finger tips.   By embracing the energies, you have authority to either keep them, blend them and fuse them within your being or give them permission to leave.  Freeing yourself from any further victimization.

So the  questions I pose to you now are ... If you embrace your pain ... give it permission to go ...  what is the worst that could happen? What do you believe would happen if you chose to forgive?

If you choose to hold on to that pain, chose not to forgive --  What benefits will that pain continue to bring you?    What have you derived or what will you derive from holding on to past hurts? 

As with any habit you have developed -- the habit of living in the state of unforgiveness can be broken. 

Whatever the mind can conceive and believe ... 

it will most assuredly achieve. 

The choice is yours. It has always been yours to make. You need only make it! 

Many insist they can't forgive their abusers.

Many believe that in forgiving would give their abusers the freedom to do whatever they want -- whenever they want. 

Trust me when I say, irregardless of what you do or don't do, your abuser will continue on with their lives. 

Holding on to the pain they inflicted upon you will not stop others from carrying on with their abuse.

By the same token, letting go of the pain will not stop others from choosing to continue on with their deeds either.  They will carry on as they always have. But it isn't about them--is it?

So the question remains ... what do you have to lose? In all seriousness ... what do you have to lose by refusing to hold on to all that pain?

By refusing to carry it with you?

Holding on to the pain is truly a hard habit to break! But it is one that can be broken!

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Something To Ponder

How many of you expressing "We Are One" are willing to accept into your fold those who are historically deemed as "evil"?    Individuals such as Osama Bin Laden, Saddam Hussein, Mussilini, Adolf Hitler ... to name a few.  More recently ... BP Oil?  Your present government leaders?

How many of you claiming enlightenment are open to embracing these(and others like them) with open arms and pouring out the love you so readily give to those of like mind?

Easy is it to give your love and attention to those who you perceive as worthy. But again I ask ... what of those you (as a whole) ... see as "unworthy"?

Do you believe that your hatred, your angst and your prejudice against these is justified?  That  it is perfectly alright to feel these things and perpetuate the energies of these?  Do you believe that your feelings, your expressions of these feelings are any less an act of evil than the acts these (and others) have committed?

If you truly believe "We Are One" ... then you will know that your unwillingness to show love towards those you deem evil is nothing less than the acts committed by any of these you see as criminals.  In truth, you are on the same level as these in many regards. 

You claim unconditional love ... yet your Love holds many conditions.   Is this true Love?  No.  

Withholding love from those you deem "evil" locks you into the very energies you are claiming to be no part of.  Yet I will remind you ... you are all of these energies. Every thing and every one ... including those you deem evil ... are as much a part of you as those who are of like mind.   There is no separation!

"There is No Separation!"  "We Are One!"  Many of you shout!   Yet the majority of  you practice separation by denying these alleged "evil" human experiencers your love.  I say to you ...  For as long as you practice separation even on the minutest level ... you are not One with all!

These individuals  did not accomplish their deeds alone.  They had plenty of help along these lines.  YOU had a part in the devastation of land, water, air, and life.  In some way... on some level ... YOU had a hand in it all.  Yes!  YOU!

We have taken note how many of you become agitated over the very thought that the likes of these alleged "evil" men & women are the same as you.   How you resist the very idea that these very same individuals are no different than yourselves.   

"How can this be?" You ask.   "I am Love!"  You scream at the top of your lungs.  "I am One with All!"  You shout. 

You yourselves have said it.    You Are One with ALL.

If you truly understand "We Are One" ... you know it means ALL ... not just a select few.

Anger -- is unacknowledged truths about one's self.  It is the emotional shield human experiencers hide behind.  Blinders that each of you use to keep from acknowledging what is truthfully going on within your Self.  It is the emotion you use to justify your own misgivings, mistakes and resistance.

Take note when you are angry over any particular devastation ... how you focus this on the ones you deem responsible.  During these times ... many of You act as though it is all outside yourself.   As though it was all created without any assistance from You.  Again, you claim you are all one ... yet deny the acceptance and acknowledgment your Self's truth of these very words. 

I ask you now ... what is your anger really about?  Take a deep hard look within.  Could it be--the anger you feel is not so much about what "they" did ... but in truth ... your contribution to it?

If you are honest with yourself ... you will acknowledge and accept this truth.  And what is this truth?  That YOU had a hand in creating whatever devastation is occurring.

Let us take for example the current created crisis in the Gulf.  BP Oil ... has become the most despised entity in 3-D earth.   Do you truly seek to end this?  Then embrace BP Oil ... fill your heart, soul and mind with unconditional love and surround these entities ... all of these entities you feel are responsible (including yourself) ... with your Love.  

Admit you had a hand in creating this.  Express your need to be forgiven for it.  Give Thanks for the opportunity to grow from this experience ... and end it with Voicing your Love for it.

Many will recognize this method as Ho'Oponopono.  It is a heartfelt practice that allows you to reach that part of your Self that desires to be ONE with All!  Put this into practice in your daily life and notice the difference it makes in your world.

Below we have placed links to assist you in practicing this method.  It is our desire that you will join us in the blending of energies.

If you truly believe You are One with All ... then accept, acknowledge and take responsibility for ALL that has occurred on your blessed 3 Dimensional earthly plane ... then take action in resolving it in a manner that is conducive to your True Selves.

Being One With All ... Includes ALL!  Even those--nay, especially and in particular,  you dislike, disagree with and yes ... even despise.    Keep in mind they too are from the very same energies that created YOU.  

There is no separation -- only resistance to the truths you know and are coming into remembering. 

Namaste!

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Ho'oponopono Links:

Guided Meditation:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac5SGwRPv0o&NR=1

Explanation of Ho'oponopono:  http://hubpages.com/hub/How-To-Practice-Hooponopono

Being The Change In 2010

Well, another year has come and gone.  And what a year it has been, eh?   Is it me or does it seem that time is just speeding by like a bullet?  Appears that way, doesn't it?

As with every year, we said good-bye to those we knew and loved in some way, on some level,  while welcoming in new friends and family members, reuniting with lost loves, reconnecting with those we had lost touch with and so on.

For me 2009 was a year of intense awakening.  While I have been on this path of awakening for what seems like eons, it was 2009 that brought about the spiritual caffeine that really jolted me into a more awakened state.   However, I wish to state that my personal expansion in conscious awareness during 2009 was different some how.  It was definitely unlike anything I had experienced in the past.

To make a rather long story short, I made some rather intense changes within myself.   I faced my worst night mares ... My SELF!  And thankfully,  have lived to tell the tale!   

Though I had always known that our thoughts become manifested ... I had not really taken into consideration the depths in which these thoughts could materialized!  And have been for eons!  oy vey!  What a predicament.  As we all know, and in truth, nothing is outside ourselves ... it all comes from within us.  This was something I always knew intellectually.  But to actually experience it?  Yea, pretty darn eye-opening ... to say the least!

Delving deep within isn't something to be taken lightly.  I won't lie to you ... It's not easy--no one said it would be.  But I can tell you from personal experience, it has been worth the effort.   To actually face your fears, to acknowledge all the mistakes you have made (ever made), to take responsibility for all the nonsense that has been mirrored back to you, then  to forgive yourself ... to love yourself ... is very intense. 

It takes a great deal of courage and strength to really look deep within yourself.  It takes even greater courage and strength to  literally acknowledge all that you are, have been and continue to be, then taking it a few steps further by taking responsibility, by accepting and Loving all that makes up your Self.  It's scary as hell!  But I did it!   And yes, I will continue to do it.  I am, after all, a work in progress--a labor of Love!

To Love One's Self is the greatest Love of All.  Why?  Again, nothing truly happens outside ourselves without first taking place within ourselves.   If we do not truly love ourselves unconditionally...then how can we ever hope for anyone else to love us in this manner?

So what do I take into 2010? Just one thing ...   Acceptance.   Accepting responsibility for every thought I think, accepting the responsibility for what these thoughts manifest, accepting the forgiveness for those thoughts and the actions it brings about, acknowledging the divine in others who come into my life, accepting gratitude by showing gratitude, and most importantly ... accepting the Love that I am.

So how did all this acceptance come about?  It all started when I was reintroduce to this healing method the beginning of 2009.   But it wasn't until it came up again and again over the last few months  that I actually gave it a go.  And trust me when I say, I resisted it with every fiber of my being.  However, I came to the conclusion that it was something I needed.  I mean, why else would it keep popping up?  Yea,  that Self of mine is a sneaky little hussy ... ain't she?

Ho'oponopono

Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.   Loosely translated, Ho‘oponopono means to set things right.  The basic concept behind Ho‘oponopono  is that you  realize the immutable fact that your entire existence comes from within, not from outside of yourself.

I know from my own personal experience that once you truly grasp and get your head around the fact that you are creating, and we are talking literally creating,  every single aspect of your existence – from the smallest molecule up through the tallest building, from the most heart-felt Love to the most passionate hatred – then you realize that you can effect change over all of it! Why?  Because you know you  are responsible for them being there in the first place!

How is all of this done via Ho‘oponopono? By simply accepting responsibility and showing gratitude.   Being the skeptic I am, I really didn't think it would work all that well.  But I figured I had nothing to lose at this point.  So I tried it.  I'm daring that way! I made a list of all the people who stood out.  I then listed all the qualities that annoyed me the most.  Wanna talk long list?  I then began seeing a pattern.  All those qualities on that list that bothered me  were the same attributes I possessed.  I only have three words to say at this point ... pot, kettle--black!

Armed with the necessary tools, I went about to first take responsibility for those attributes that had been mirrored back to me.  I was responsible ... no getting around it.  Next, I set out to ask forgiveness.  Finally, I expressed my gratitude and my Love for each person involved.  

My results?  Inner Peace & Contentment.  I really won't know how it affected everyone on my list until I get some kind of physical validation.    And even if I don't ever get that validation, I still feel good about what I have done.  I mean, it was all about ME anyways ... now wasn't it?

I hope you will join me in 2010 as I set out to consciously work Ho'oponopono each and every day.  It's all part of the on-going challenge I initiated on January 1, 2008.  It's one of the best methods I have worked thus far.  And besides,  what better way to work the Say NO To Fear challenge than to face yourself and work from within, eh? 

Be the Change You Wish To See In The World ~ Ghandi

And so it is!

I take responsibility for what is reflected back to me.  I'm sorry, please forgive me, I love you!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I am sorry that I didn't accept the lesson when it was presented to me through you.  Please forgive me for not appreciating you in that moment. I'm sorry!  I Love You! I Love You! I Love You!

I am sorry for not showing you the respect you deserved and continue to  deserve.  I'm sorry, please forgive me.  I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!    

I acknowledge and I  appreciate your bravery, your wisdom and most of all  ... the Love you have and always had for me by reflecting back to me in order for Me to Learn and Grow!  I'm sorry for not accepting all of these gifts when you presented them to me.  I'm Sorry!  Please Forgive Me!  I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I take responsibility for all the anger and hatred shown to me.  I now see how it projected out to you ... to the world we live in.   I'm sorry, please forgive me. I Love You!  I Love You!  I Love You!

I LOVE YOU!

Source: 

http://www.drcat.org/articles_interviews/html/hotfudge.html

http://hooponopono.org/Articles/self_i-dentity.html

http://hooponopono.org/Articles/theres_got_to_be.html

Louise L. Hay