2019: The Year of Breaking Free

Well, kiddies it's 2019!  I don't know about all of you, but the last three years has been an endless loop of the SSDD. And quite frankly, I'm sick of it. So for the new year, I have set my conscious intentions to break free from that loop and be more productive.  It's not a resolution which we all know never work out.  No, this is much bigger.  Much more solid.  It is intent.  And intent is much more doable than any resolution.  Even the words have different energies.  Try it.  Resolution.  Intent.  Notice the difference in the energies?

My inspiration to set these particular intentions comes from the TV show Lucifer.   Long story short, Lucifer and his brother, Amenadiel, came into the realization that their Father was not controlling them or their lives.   That in truth, they were the ones holding themselves back, creating a loop of the same shit different day scenario.   Interestingly enough, Lucifer stated that in hell, people tortured themselves with what they believed they deserved.  All he did was supply the scenery and players.  The rest was up to the individual.  It was both sad and comical when they both came to see that the same applied to them. They only received in life what they themselves believed they deserved.  No one controlled their beliefs.  No one controlled what came into their lives.  No one was sitting somewhere on a lofty throne punishing them for deeds they did or fail to do.  It was all on them.  They believed they deserved to be punished.  And so they were.  They were being punished not by any deity, not by any other entity. Quite the contrary.  It was all by their own hand that punishment was meted out.  

Sure, we all have been told we're doing it to ourselves. That life happens through us, not to us. But to really know it, to truly believe it and then take action ... well, that's a whole other story.   

I have known for years that I have been caught in my own self inflicted endless loop of torment.  I convinced myself early on in life that I truly deserved the punishment that was handed out to me. So it comes as no surprise that the Universe provided me with assistance.  Funny thing about my punishment.  I don't even remember the reason.  I can't recall why it all started in the first place.   I have spent many sleepless nights trying to remember.  I just can't.  I just know it started when I was very young and has continued through the years.  Oy!  Talk about a slow learner! 

Watching those last episodes of Lucifer taught me one thing.  It doesn't matter why the punishment started -- it only matters that I myself end it.  After all, I'm the only one that can.  No one else can do it for me.   So taking the Angel brothers' lead, I too end my loop of perpetual torment.  I end it by me accepting the truth that I deserve better!  That I deserve to be treated with respect.  That I deserve to be who and what I am.  

Granted, the criticisms and the pettiness of others will go on. It's all part of the learning process.   The only thing that changes is my reaction to it all.  Remembering and keeping forever in my mind that life isn't happening to me, but through me.   

In articles to come, I will be sharing my experiences with the various modalities that I am using to break free of this cycle.  It is my hope that one of you will benefit from my story and assist you in breaking free from your own personal torment loop!

I'm nobody's fool.  I know it won't be easy.  Then again, no one said it would be.  But as Dolly Parton says, if you want rainbows you're gonna have to put up with a little rain!  

Happy New Year Everyone!  

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Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way. 

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Resolutions for 2016

​Okay folks it's a new day in a new year and yours truly has broken her own rules in making resolutions and decided to actually make a few this year.   Blame it on lack of sleep, but I thought that maybe--just maybe--I could do it. So with that said I, the Empress of the known & unknown Universes™ (self-proclaimed!) hereby resolves the following...

I resolve not to refer, infer, state, imply or look at anyone as if they were an idiot. Unless they are being idiots, then I'm obligated to call them out on it.  Due to legalities of said resolutions I am prompted to declare a disclaimer: I got a new Thesaurus for Christmas. And no, that's not one of the dinosaurs in Jurassic Park! 

I resolve to stop asking people one particular question, and that question being how stupid can you be? After years of careful observation, I've come to the conclusion that asking such a question would prompt some into thinking it was a challenge.  This in turn would have me breaking my first resolution and we can't have that.  Now can we?  

I resolve not to get involved with any type of political discussion.    I'm honest enough to know that people (for the most part) make it way too easy to point out how truly stupid they are--and I am hellbent on keeping my resolutions.  

I resolve to ignore all videos that pop up on my news feed on Face Book showing someone being "heroic" while never explaining why the person filming the act never bothering to put away the camera and help the person in need their damn self.  I mean I get that the majority of people on this planet are dumber than a sack of hammers and believe that all that they see on the internet is genuine and legit...but come ON! You see someone freezing half to death--you give them something warm to wear, you get them a hot beverage, you take them somewhere where it's warm!!!! You see someone drowning you either call 9-1-1 or jump in there and save them; if  you see someone getting the ever living shit beat of them...you put down the G-damn camera and call 9-1-1! Of if you can, you get in there and beat the rat bastards off that poor slob getting the snot knocked out of'em!  Seriously people!  WTF? 

*DEEEEP BREATH*

I resolve to not judge people on an everyday basis.  I know me and knowing me like I do, I know I'll do it at least once a week.  But I figure not doing it every single day should suffice.  Even  even though the majority of people deserve being judged for being so unbelievably stupid and really need me to shove my foot so far up their asses they would be coughing shoe leather for the rest of the year, I have concluded that my judging them as to how unimaginably stuck on stupid they are is not for me to say but is between them and the deity of their choosing.  

I was going to resolve to take better care of myself, eating healthier, exercising more, cut back on smoking, add another day of meditating and just being.  But the fact is, all this healthy living would just lead to a longer time in this hell hole filled with the dumbest beings this side of the Milky Way.  And the way I see it...I'm going to be dead from a stroke within six months anyways holding in how I REALLY feel.  So screw the healthy life-style freeze dried bullshit and pass me the donuts and coffee!

So there you have it folks!  My resolutions for 2016!

oy!

About Julia K. Cole

What can you expect from someone who considers Putting Reality Back Into Spirituality a personal calling? Straight forward answers that lead to life-changing experiences on a soul level!

Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way. 

As a writer, Julia is a virtual powerhouse of creativity.  Among Julia's literary accomplishments is  the  Children of the Luminaries  trilogy;  Book One: The Coming Storm can be purchased by clicking Here.   

Book Two  of the trilogy is due out in the Fall of 2015 and Book Three will be available in 2016.  The long anticipated ZEN of Duct Tape:  An Empress Is Born will be out in 2016.  As well as The Teddy Mitchell Chronicles.

Julia has also contributed to several other publications including Brad Steiger's  Real Zombies, The Living Dead, and Creatures of the Apocalypse  and Marie D. Jones' Destiny vs. Choice 

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New Year's Eve Traditions Around The World

Ringing in the New Year is one of the few holiday celebrations that is marked in nearly every country in the world. International New Year’s festivities may look remarkably similar on television, with large crowds of people gathered in central locations in countries around the globe.

Though billions watch the Times Square celebration worldwide, many countries have their own traditions when it comes to welcoming the new year. However, many countries also have their own unique and sometimes offbeat traditions to welcome in the New Year. Find out where revelers traditionally eat 12 green grapes at midnight, throw furniture out the window, offer white flowers to a goddess, and more. Below is a list of how people celebrate in nations across the globe.

Russia: One New Year’s custom in Russia is to write a wish for the upcoming year on a piece of paper, then to burn the paper and place the ashes in a glass of champagne, which needs to be consumed right before the New Year is rung in for the wish to come true.

Peru: Peruvian New Year’s traditions are a dime a dozen, with everything from wearing new clothes and lighting candles to writing down wishes, all practiced with the intention of bringing good luck for the upcoming year. One of the most interesting of these is the tradition of foretelling the next year’s fortunes with the use of potatoes. According to the tradition, three potatoes are placed under a chair or sofa-- one peeled, one half peeled and one unpeeled. At midnight, one potato is chosen at random, which forecasts the state of next year’s finances, with the peeled potato signifying no money, half-peeled a regular year and unpeeled a great financial bounty in the year ahead.

Philippines: Another country where New Year’s traditions outnumber the months of the year, the Philippines has a number of rituals designed to bring good luck in the year ahead. One of these is to open all doors and windows in your house on New Year’s Eve in order to allow negative energy to leave and good energy to enter.

South Africa: Throwing furniture out of windows has become a tradition in the South African city of Johannesburg-- one that local authorities have been keen to stamp out in the face of rising pedestrian injuries. 

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Known as The Empress of the Known & Unknown Universes™ and The Diva of Duct Tape, Julia has made it her personal mission to put Reality back into Spirituality™. Julia sets out to assist people in expanding their conscious awareness through her rather unique and personal take on the human experience. 

In the style of Erma Bombeck, Julia utilizes her own brand of humor and down to earth demeanor to get her messages across in an all so delightful way. 

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New Year’s Twin Babies Born In Separate Years

Such a Cool News Story!  Just had to share it!!!

As people around the world partied their way into the new year, two mothers gave birth to two of the last babies of 2013 and two of the first babies of 2014.  While born just minutes apart, their twin babies entered the world in two different years.

On Dec. 31, 2013, at 11:58 p.m., Yaleni Santos Tohalino gave birth to baby girl Lorraine Yaleni Begazo, who weighed at 6 pounds, 4.9 ounces, at MedStar Washington Hospital Center, in Washington, D.C.

Soon after, her twin brother Brandon Ferdinando Begazo was born on Jan. 1, 2014, at 12:01 a.m., weighing at 5 pounds, 10.4 ounces.


Click HERE to read the rest of the story.

Pondering 2013: Part 1

As 2013 quickly comes to an end, I am taking with me all the things I have learned throughout the year.   As in previous years, I learned quite a bit about myself.   Well, maybe not so much learned as finally accepted.

There’s no going back and changing what I did, didn’t do, say or didn’t say.   I can only say I’m sorry for being such a dip-shit and hope that one day the people in my life will forgive me.    Taking the first step, I forgave myself.   And I work each day to stay in the energy of forgiveness.    Which has helped me become stronger.    That strength led to me cutting family ties.  

As I sit here writing this, I’m reminded of a scene from What Dreams May Come.   You know the one, where Robin Williams’ character finds his wife who just committed suicide?   Like that character, I fought my way through heaven in order to be with people who made it painfully obvious they wanted nothing to do with me.   Like the wife, they are emotionally damaged, choosing to live their lives as a victim, creating their own special kind of hell in which to dwell.   Then here I come fighting all of heaven to join them.  Yea, imagine that someone would choose hell over heaven just to be with miserable, selfish, self-centered, thieving, hypocritical assholes!   

Crazy.  I know!  But now, now I've finally accepted the fact that I don't belong there with any of them.  Yea, I knew it all along.  But it just took me a good long while, an ocean of tears and several good swift kicks in the ass to finally just MOVE ON!   And too, to acknowledge and, yes accept, that  Hell is a place I no longer wish to be.      

So I say a final farewell to all those who rather live in misery and be a victim!  Who would rather wallow in the depths of despair in Hell than enjoy the splendors of Heaven.

For 2014, I came up with a Mission Statement.  It will be my guide throughout the year.  Granted, I’ll probably add to it as time goes by.  But for now, here is what it looks like: 

My purpose is to express my willingness to learn, willingness to change and willingness to be the change I wish to see in the world by being committed to ongoing lessons provided through various sources, making decisions and immediately acting upon them and surrounding myself with people of the same mind set.

How I love the whole idea of 2014!!!   Which is why I got started early! 

Happy New Year Everybody!

Christmas and New Year's Begins TODAY!

Yep!  Yep! Yep! I've decided not to wait until January 1st to begin my New Year.   And too,  I decided not to wait until Christmas to give myself a few much needed gifts.

 I figure why put off one or two weeks that I can do today?  Right?

Seeing how it's been years in the making, I resolved to cut a dozen or so stragglers (Most of which are blood related) out of my life once and for all.    With the exception of my three children, everyone else in that so called family is hereby gone from my life.  

Not that they will notice mind you.  Seeing how I am the invisible woman and all.  A Nobody! 

And yes, I have actually been told I am nobody in that family.  More than once or twice!  

After 50 plus years of trying to bond with these mindless and clueless assholes, and trying to be a "family,"  I've decided to say so long, fare thee well, adieu, bye-bye...GOOD RIDDANCE once and for all!  

Again, they won't notice.  Not that it really matters that they notice.    I notice!  And in this particular scenario, I'm the only one who actually counts!

And yes!  I'm a happier and more fulfilled person because I'm  going into 2014 without them!

After all these years of yearning to be a part of a family and never seeing it come to fruition, I am finally letting it and them all go!  Really and truly, with all my heart and soul, let them, and their endless stream of bat shit crazy dramas, GO!  

Hmm, I'm finally ready to do all that!  And I Have! 
Like I said, it's been a decision that's been years in the making.   While I have been slowly cutting family members loose one by one, some of which I had to cut loose several times, I can honestly say this is IT!!!!  This is the final good-bye.  And let me just say that cutting the ties this time around actually feels different.   In fact, it is different this time around.  Can't explain it.  It just is. 

Maybe the difference is I'm finally ready to let go.   To Really Let Go!  Yea, that sounds good!  Let's  go with that!

As for any non-related stragglers...you're already gone, gone, GONE!  And No!  I won't miss you cause you're Gone!    

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Although...it does make you wonder why a person would continue to put themselves through endless heartache like I have all these years.  Oh, who am I kidding?  I already know why.    I know it  all boils down to acceptance.    Of course, that leads into my next question...why would anyone want to be accepted by a bunch of people who treat them like they don't even exist?  Or treat you like you've committed some crime or about to commit some crime?

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Though  it does play a huge part in the great scheme of things, for me it wasn't just about acceptance.  It was also about being seen.   Seen as a human being, a loved one, a member of the family.  

Sadly, when one of those ass hats finally did "see me" they treated me like I was some kind of outsider or some kind of foreign double agent.    Someone who had to get "special permission" or wait until an escort could be obtain in order for me to visit or be a part of a family situation, experience, etc.  

Is it me?  Or does that sound royally fucked up?

Okay, so to give you an idea what I'm talking about,  a few years ago when my mother was still alive,  my name was conveniently left off a list given to my mother's nurse.   It was a  list of mother's children and grand-children.   What struck me as odd, my one brother who had pre-deceased mother was on that list!    

So very nice to know that the dead get more respect and recognition than I do! oy!

At any rate, when I went to visit mother, I had to show I.D. and bring in my youngest son (who's name WAS on the list!) to prove I wasn't some Ninja  assassin or something!

And this is one of many examples of the horseshit stunts these fuck tards have pulled over the years.

 Hard to believe ain't it?  That THESE are the type of people I wanted to be with???!   Seriously!  oy!    Makes you wonder how really sane I am...don't it?

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My long time friend and I had a rather intense conversation a few weeks back regarding all of this.    And he really drove the point home!

 He asked,  "Imagine there is a room with a dozen vicious dogs with rabies. Now, I ask, would you try to get in that room with them?"  (of course not! was my reply)  With hands on hips, and a very stern look, he then asked,  "Then why do you insist on being with people who are just as vicious?  Just as rabid?" 

Good point!   He's right!  (don't tell him I said that please!  *LOL*)   And it was at that moment that damn proverbial light bulb clicked on!   I guess I just needed that one last shove in the right direction.  

Don't get me wrong, I'm a little sadden that it came down to this.  But as I mentioned above, it's been years in the making.  There's only so much one person can take.   And honestly, I've taken more than my fair share.  Several times!

Seeing how it's Christmas, I decided that its time for others to enjoy the bliss of heartache and horseshit.  *Big Evil Grin*

Ahead of me is a new road.  A Road that is lit up with all sorts of bright lights.  Interesting!  I never noticed that road before!  Guess those new freeze dried bullshit wipers I got actually work!  Huh?  *LOL*

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I've given myself the gift of   Making decisions, sticking to them, and making allowances where I need to.    


Merry Christmas Everybody!

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