When it comes to being thankful and being in gratitude, I learned a few things over the years. And the one thing that really comes to mind is how judgement of anyone is so damn destructive. And how it only serves to not only perpetuate the current problem, but creates even more problems in it's wake.
While we each can justify why we judge someone (and ourselves), situations and events, the fact of the matter is, judgment takes away so much from us. Both as individuals and as a whole.
Judgment robs us of precious energies that we don't always notice. Until it's too late.
Judgment distracts us from the lesson(s) that are being presented to us at that given time. Which in turn, forces us to repeat those same lessons over and over until we do finally get it!
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For the last couple of months I've literally drained myself of energy all over judging one person in particular. Judging this person (though well justified) hasn't resolved anything. And true to it's nature, my judgments have only serve to keep the issues going strong. And too, creating more along the way.
Though I have had my say and made my stand, the judgment still looms over our heads. It's a heavy dense energy that presses against and down on my body. So much so that I finally said, TIME TO GO HOSS! The decision to let it all go and walk away from this judgment has come. Because quite frankly, I'm extremely exhausted by it all!
Granted, I will ever invite this person back into my life, for doing so would only lead to more unnecessary bullshit. And I for one have no desire to repeat the lessons this person brings! Nor do I desire to feel weighed down by the burdens of constant judgments. So with that said, I now forgive and close that chapter once and for all. Giving thanks that I have enough sense to do this for my Self!
There's a lot more to be said, but I've decided that that too must be let go.
This person knows who they are. And too, they know what they've done and continue to do.
My passing judgment on them doesn't stop them from being what they chose to be in this moment. Nor does it change what they choose to do to others. Perhaps one day in the not too distance future, my forgiveness of them and expressing heartfelt thanks for all that I've learned from them will be the very thing that makes the want to change.
One can only hope!
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And just as a quick reminder...
Forgiveness is not the condoning of any acts that bring harm. It is the refusal to allow to be weighed down by those harmful actions. It is refusing to be made prisoner of whatever judgments arises from those harmful actions.
Forgiveness is not about inviting that person that chooses to do harm back into your life. It's about accepting whatever lessons they brought, using those lessons for your own personal growth. It's all about Relinquishing ownership of judgment of that person and allowing them to be who they choose to be. Somewhere else! Preferably far, far, FAR away!
Forgiveness is about saying good-bye, I wish you well, I wish you all the best, to those who refuse to change.
Forgiveness is about remembering all that was taught, without being caught up in the dense energies of judgment.
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Being genuinely thankful and bringing yourself into the Attitude of Gratitude keeps you where YOU are suppose to be! Full of energy, vitality and joy! It's not about them! It never truly was! And that my dearies is a powerful lesson greatly earned and learned!
I will end this blog with The Serenity Prayer...
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The Serenity Prayer
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.
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Namaste Beloveds!
