Julia K Cole

If you don't love yourself ...how can you expect anyone to love you? Contrary to what many may believe, Loving yourself is not an act of selfishness .   That would be narcissism.  Sadly, most confuse self-love with narcissism.   But I am here to tell you that there is a vast difference between self-love and being narcissistic. Self-love is acceptance of who you are, as you are,  in this moment.  Narcissism detests acceptance of anything that does not meet it's unreachable standards and  is not perfect. People with Self-love embrace change -- they actually welcome it.   They happily and gratefully accept the changes that occur with our bodies over time.   Self-love has no need to flaunt.  It requires no attention from outside sources as it is self contained and content. Narcissism, on the other hand, lives in constant fear of change.  And is terrified of not being admired and envied.   N...

  There are many  by products of practicing forgiveness.  Here in part 3 of my on going blog series entitled Forgiveness , we will take a look at a few of them. Good Health and Genuine Happiness It has been proven that people who practice forgiveness on a regular basis are healthier and happier. When you live in the state of forgiveness, your body is more relaxed.  Your heart rate and blood pressure stay on a normal healthy level.  This in turn creates a better flow of oxygen to the brain. A better flow of oxygen leads to clearer thinking and the wherewithal  to remaining calm and centered even during stressful situations. People who practice forgiveness are not blind to the events taking place in the world.  They are not ignorant of the negativity that exists here on the earthly plane.  On the contrary!   People who practice genuine forgiveness are very much aware of everything happening to them and all around them.   ...

When it comes to genuinely forgiving -- I fall short.  Way short ! I know this only because … I can rattle off the names of a half dozen people  who have gone out of their way to slander me, hurt me and my family in some way.   And not only that,   every once in a while -- I actually take a few minutes to envision these assholes  being trampled by a flock of 100 foot mutant chickens.   It puts a smile on my face!   Makes me giggle!  Seriously -- who wouldn’t laugh at the thought of someone running from a gigantic chicken? Don’t get me wrong -- I don’t spend too much time on these fantasies.   Those morons aren’t worth the time and energy.  But still … whenever I need a good laugh  … I just flip on that imagination switch and let those mutant chickens run rampant! *~*~* Entertaining thoughts such as these is what  EFT Practitioner Margaret Lynch refers to as “Negative Pleasures.”    Accor...

Embracing All That You Are is not a belief that limits you or hinders you in any way.  It is a knowing that allows you Freedom!   To help you understand Embracing ALL That You Are ... here is my list that I have created for MY - SELF.  It is but a small fraction of all that I am.  But I think you will get the gist!   I EMBRACE ALL MY .... Insecurities                Doubt Anger                       Ignorance All Fears -- great and small Intolerance Sorrow, pain and sadness           Bigotry Shallowness                   Selfishness Control Freak in me               Stupidity Neediness and Greediness     ...

When it actually began -- no one knows for certain.  But you can bet your bottom dollar -- it has been around for a very, very long time!  How many are an active part of this particular “occupy movement”  -- is unknown.   But rest assured -- their numbers are vast -- and they are growing.   The many members of this "movement"  are All who are ready, willing and desiring to create, initiate and motivate the real changes.    They are  All of those people  who are willing to take and accept 100%  responsibility for Self -- they are those who have already accepted 100% responsibility for everything taking place throughout  the world; they are ALL  those who now know the “other person” isn’t to blame. They are those who know -- who believe -- who live by-- being the change they desire to see in the world!   They are the ones who do not wait for the "other person"  -- but take the initiative to...