Julia K Cole

For the past few days I have been grappling with stress.  Mostly work related.  What I have noticed about stress is (1) it really locks up your body and makes it hurt; and (2) it's stressful!  *big smile* To stress my point on stress and stress release (pun intended) I share with you the following story:  A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience with a raised glass of water.    Everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half  full?'... She fooled them all .... "How heavy is this glass of water?" she inquired with a smile. Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. To 20 oz. She replied , "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it.  If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.   If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an Ambulance. ...

Gather yourselves together.   Your tribes, your families, your friends and those of like mind.  Gather yourselves together and be as one.   Stop struggling to reach the masses.  Step back and embrace those you are already reaching and those you've already reached.  Do not concern yourselves with those that have not been touched by your light.  Do not chase after those that do not appreciate what you are offering.     If it is meant to be, those that have not already found you, will most certainly find you .   Stop believing in the adage "the squeaky wheel always gets the oil ."     The oil is used to silence the squeak, but is not always taken seriously.  And the results seldom yield lasting results. Many of you  have now discovered,  it is the quiet and unassuming, the softest of voices,  that brings about the long lasting results.   As you were living as the squeaky wheel ,  you slo...

I’m so happy and grateful now that … each day is filled with inspiration, joy and new opportunities. I’ve met and exceeded my 2014 goals with calmness, purpose and commitment. Be sure to visit the Proctor and Gallagher Institute at www.proctorgallagherinstitute.com

Do you reflect upon the years gone by as you prepare for yet one more, with promises and resolutions that you have made before? Do memories of people and places once as sharp as any knife now blend in bits and pieces in a kaleidoscope of life? Do you squander precious minutes seeking reasons why you’re here,  contemplating your life’s purpose year after passing year? Persuade yourself to understand, it matters not the reason. Your purpose is to seize the life in every passing season! Learn to see things differently. Let your thoughts and actions change. Allow your views of past and present to slowly rearrange. Let your spirit start anew; become focused and aware of the moments and the blessings that surround you everywhere! Do not permit past memories: the where…the who…the how to become more important than the ones you’re making now. Live life in person; inhabit every day. You may not like where you are now, but you’re there anyway! A lifetime is a puzzle, every f...

When it comes to being thankful and being in gratitude, I learned a few things over the years.  And the one thing that really comes to mind is how judgement of anyone is so damn destructive.   And how it only serves to not only perpetuate the current problem, but creates even more problems in  it's wake.   While we each can justify why we judge someone (and ourselves), situations and events,  the fact of the matter is,  judgment takes away so much from us.  Both as individuals and as a whole.   Judgment  robs us of precious energies that we don't always notice.  Until it's too late. Judgment distracts us from the lesson(s) that are being presented to us at that given time.  Which in turn, forces us to repeat those same lessons over and over until we do finally get it!    *~*~*~* For the last couple of months I've literally drained myself of energy all over judging one person in particular.  J...

This article,  originally entitled Tree of Love , was  written and posted by me on January 2, 2010 on my Say No To Fear blog.    I thought I would repost it here on my main blog under the more appropriate title, Where Does Fear Come From? It's quite lengthy.  But I hope you take the time to read it carefully and thoroughly.  If you have any questions and/or comments, please do not hesitate to leave them here. *~*~*~*~*~*~ The following is a message I received during one of my daily meditations.   It is in answer to one of the questions I posed ... where does fear come from? As a psychic medium, I am accustomed  to being visited by spirits of all walks of life--past, present, and yes, future.  I am always pleasantly surprised when I am visited by the spirits of people I've only heard about.   Like the numerous others who have visited me over the years, I only knew of him.  I never really bothered to read up ...

  There are many  by products of practicing forgiveness.  Here in part 3 of my on going blog series entitled Forgiveness , we will take a look at a few of them. Good Health and Genuine Happiness It has been proven that people who practice forgiveness on a regular basis are healthier and happier. When you live in the state of forgiveness, your body is more relaxed.  Your heart rate and blood pressure stay on a normal healthy level.  This in turn creates a better flow of oxygen to the brain. A better flow of oxygen leads to clearer thinking and the wherewithal  to remaining calm and centered even during stressful situations. People who practice forgiveness are not blind to the events taking place in the world.  They are not ignorant of the negativity that exists here on the earthly plane.  On the contrary!   People who practice genuine forgiveness are very much aware of everything happening to them and all around them.   ...

When it comes to genuinely forgiving -- I fall short.  Way short ! I know this only because … I can rattle off the names of a half dozen people  who have gone out of their way to slander me, hurt me and my family in some way.   And not only that,   every once in a while -- I actually take a few minutes to envision these assholes  being trampled by a flock of 100 foot mutant chickens.   It puts a smile on my face!   Makes me giggle!  Seriously -- who wouldn’t laugh at the thought of someone running from a gigantic chicken? Don’t get me wrong -- I don’t spend too much time on these fantasies.   Those morons aren’t worth the time and energy.  But still … whenever I need a good laugh  … I just flip on that imagination switch and let those mutant chickens run rampant! *~*~* Entertaining thoughts such as these is what  EFT Practitioner Margaret Lynch refers to as “Negative Pleasures.”    Accor...

I’m on week three of doing the 70x7 exercise -- and MAN!  Does my hand hurt!  For those unfamiliar with this little process -- it is taken from the Christian Bible. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  ~Matthew 18:21-22  (NIV) I never gave this passage  much thought until I was doing research.   My search lead me to Cat Saunders’ blog page “Four Principles of Effective Apology” -- where I found her article entitled “My Favorite Forgiveness Process.” In her article, Cat  describes how she combined ideas from two of  her mentors in regard to forgiveness, Sondra  Ray and Morrnah Simeona. One is the Ho’Oponopono phrases:  I’m Sorry, Please Forgive me, I love you and I thank you. The other is literally writing out 70 times each day for 7 days the f...

The person who hurt you either  Isn’t aware they have hurt you; Doesn’t care they hurt you ; Has forgotten about the incident and moved on; Sleeps very well at night Has no issues with indigestion, headaches, back pain or any other kind of pain Is convinced you are in desperate need of getting a life,  getting laid or both Has steady relationships and a job Has no addictions or disorders Can hold a steady personal relationship/keep a job You on the other hand … Can remember every detail of the incident and every syllable uttered; Have developed various types of ailments, joint pains, suffer from headaches, backaches,  a wide variety of  physical, mental and/or emotional health issues; Are angry, resentful and mistrustful; Either can’t sleep or sleeps way too much Now has an eating disorder Suffering from memory loss --huge chunks of your life is missing Has some sort of addiction (alcohol, drugs, sex, spending, gambling, food) Can’t hold...