Julia K Cole

I’m on week three of doing the 70x7 exercise -- and MAN!  Does my hand hurt!  For those unfamiliar with this little process -- it is taken from the Christian Bible. Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”  Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.”  ~Matthew 18:21-22  (NIV) I never gave this passage  much thought until I was doing research.   My search lead me to Cat Saunders’ blog page “Four Principles of Effective Apology” -- where I found her article entitled “My Favorite Forgiveness Process.” In her article, Cat  describes how she combined ideas from two of  her mentors in regard to forgiveness, Sondra  Ray and Morrnah Simeona. One is the Ho’Oponopono phrases:  I’m Sorry, Please Forgive me, I love you and I thank you. The other is literally writing out 70 times each day for 7 days the f...

The person who hurt you either  Isn’t aware they have hurt you; Doesn’t care they hurt you ; Has forgotten about the incident and moved on; Sleeps very well at night Has no issues with indigestion, headaches, back pain or any other kind of pain Is convinced you are in desperate need of getting a life,  getting laid or both Has steady relationships and a job Has no addictions or disorders Can hold a steady personal relationship/keep a job You on the other hand … Can remember every detail of the incident and every syllable uttered; Have developed various types of ailments, joint pains, suffer from headaches, backaches,  a wide variety of  physical, mental and/or emotional health issues; Are angry, resentful and mistrustful; Either can’t sleep or sleeps way too much Now has an eating disorder Suffering from memory loss --huge chunks of your life is missing Has some sort of addiction (alcohol, drugs, sex, spending, gambling, food) Can’t hold...